Life’s disappointing rejections have been the premise for countless books, movies, and song lyrics. Have you ever wondered why that is? My guess is because it happens to all of us – often with brutal repetition – and we need help recovering from it.

A go-getter whom I admire sent me an article last week titled, Aim to Fail: Why Rethinking Rejection Can Increase Productivity. The author, Jessica Sillers, made a powerful statement that kind of silenced the world for a moment.

“If you reframe rejection as an achievement for putting yourself out there, you may have an easier time mustering the courage to aim for top-tier, highly competitive markets.”

Rejection as an achievement? Now there’s an interesting twist. Care to explore it with me?

Reshape and revise

The first thing this article made me realize is that, with just a singular shift in our thought process, we can take the rejections that we perceive to be failures as opportunities for advancement – chances to tweak our craft.

We totally have the power to take away all the pain and remorse of rejection, reshaping it into a good thing. We can’t control the outcome, but we can control our reaction to it.

In an article published by Inc.com, author Amy Morin shares five ways mentally strong people deal with rejection. Chief among those coping mechanisms is an ability to view rejection as proof that we’re pushing our limits.

“Mentally strong people know that rejection serves as proof they’re living life to the fullest.” 

A rejection letter indicates we’re trying for new heights. That’s the first positive point to consider. Secondly, it is simply a tool for improvement, a way to learn. Don’t just deal with the pain. Turn it into an opportunity for revision and growth.

Rejection is simply redirection

CNBC begins a powerful article on rejection with a whopping reminder.

“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was being redirected to something better.” – Dr. Steve Maraboli

Rejection has a greater purpose than providing us with one of life’s stings. It presents us with an opportunity to rework the pitch. This can be an exciting project, if we allow it. Take your rejections and pile them up beside your valuable leads. When that break finally comes your way, you’ll be able to see the evidence. You took all those rejection letters and turned them into one heck of a successful venture.

It’s mind over matter

It’s totally mind over matter, my friends. We have the choice to delete those rejection e-mails with a resounding CLICK! Or, we can look at them again, rework things a little, and – with a refreshed perspective – give it another try.

Dr. Wayne Dyer was a visionary who penned such books as, Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life. One of his most popular quotes is:

“Change the way you see things and things you see will change.”

In the end, a mindset shift is a tall order if we’re battling bills that are piling up and bank accounts that are dwindling down. Even in the best of circumstances this is a steep mountain to climb. However, if we adopt this new mindset, each rejection won’t carry the weight of defeat. Rather, it will offer the levity of life’s golden opportunities.

Feature photo:
Nadim Merrikh

10 COMMENTS

  1. Hi Shehroz! I’m absolutely over the moon. I’m so glad my article helped lift you a little higher. Here’s to that continuing on! -Kit

  2. Hi Belema! I found that to be a good reminder when I read it, too. Here’s hoping it’ll help us, should we ever face rejection again! -Kit

  3. @Belema You are so right! It should be the go-to mantra whenever someone is faced with a slammed door in their face.

  4. At this stage of my life right now, I think this is exactly what I need to hear/read. Rejection is not the end, not even close. Thanks for sharing this inspiring post.

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